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"Sit on my face" guy
Gepost op:16 augustus 2019 11:34 am
Laatste update:24 maart 2020 8:46 am
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A friend and I went to a bar a few nights ago. We found the last open table in the place. Quickly, it became clear why the table was open.
There were two men and two women at the next table. The guys had already had plenty to drink. Both girls had definitely put in a lot of work to get themselves ready for the evening. One girl spent a fair amount of time tugging on her tiny shorts and shirt to try to adjust and get comfortable. She seemed to be getting the majority of the attention from both guys.
The guy with his hat on backwards on the far side of the table from me was loud enough to hear from our table. He turned to the girl and said "you know what I like about you? I can say inappropriate sexual things to you and you are cool with it." She didn't look impressed. Later he followed it up with, "Do you want to sit on my face later." She politely declined and still didn't seem impressed.
I turned to my friend and wondered out loud if that of strategy really works for some guys. I was thinking that it must if he continues to use it. He looked like he was in his late 30's, not just a hammered college kid.
So anyway, I thought I would throw out a couple of questions, specifically for the ladies.
Is it ever a turn on when a guy is hitting on you in a way that looks a lot like sexual harassment?
Do guys benefit from testing the waters by asking those of questions, only to say they are joking when they get declined?
When does making sexually suggestive comments turn from being creepy to cute?
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First in Person Encounter
Gepost op:20 november 2018 3:49 pm
Laatste update:12 februari 2019 12:35 pm
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It didn't end with hot and passionate sex so if that's what you are interested in reading about, this blog may bore you.
Joining the site was more about new encounters, new experiences and education or enlightenment for me. There wasn't a major agenda. After being on here for quite a while, I met someone in person for the first time today.
It isn't always easy to get women to engage in chat on the site, but this lady grabbed my attention by being friendly and engaging right from the start. We began to talk fairly regularly on IM and she wasn't trying to sell anything. Our conversations were interesting and for me fairly enlightening. My 37 have been relatively tame so I can be admittedly naive to much of the world of fantasies, fetishes and NSA sexual experiences. Her personal stories highlighting the good and bad of FWB relationships grabbed my attention.
Enough comfort level was developed to meet for lunch today. I wasn't sure what to expect. I knew from her pictures that she was attractive and has a great body, but also knew she is also a few inches taller than me. I know that can be a turnoff for women at times.
It is difficult to read all about a person's personality from online chat, so I was interested to see what she is really like.
She walked into the bar after I had already sat down and her looks didn't disappoint. I wasn't picking up that she was deeply attracted to me, but her body language didn't say she was repulsed either. When her foot was against my leg under the table, she didn't get frisky, but also didn't pull away.
The conversation started with small talk but fairly quickly turned to being more about excitement she has pursued and encountered on "adult social media." Other people's experiences interest me so I listened and probably asked too many questions, as I have a tendency to do.
We didn't really talk about the two of us or whether or not further connection would happen after today. I had to get back to work and the conversation hit a natural lull so we parted ways.
Later on IM, she admitted there wasn't a strong physical attraction, but politely said she enjoyed the time with me and would be happy to continue talking. She is looking for a friend with benefits and I may not be her type, but that is totally fine. People are interesting. Connections, even when the don't lead to a hookup or incredible chemistry, can be enjoyable.
Overall, meeting someone for the first time on this site was a success. Maybe the more steamy encounters are still ahead.
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Matrimony or Mating
Gepost op:27 oktober 2018 8:34 pm
Laatste update:12 november 2018 10:29 am
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At an interesting point in my life. I am not looking to start a long term relationship. But that doesn't mean I just want to hit and run either. Craving exciting new connection but not necessarily sex. Sometimes it seems easy for people to be focused on the extremes. They are either wanting to find their "forever love" or preying online for a meaningless sexual experience.
Wish there was more middle ground out there. Can a connection just be spontaneous? Is it possible to just enjoy whatever it ends up being?
Even if there isn't obvious chemistry, it can be enjoyable to sit and talk without expectation. The chemistry will take care of itself when the connection is right. Why force it? No need to be angry if it ends up just being drinks and a talk. People are interesting. Spending time with a woman without a predetermined goal is more fun in my experience.
Not being judgmental about what other people enjoy. Just don't really get excited about the idea of meeting the first time for the sole purpose of sex. Sometimes the conversation builds the interest and physical draw. Sometimes it reveals a lack of real interest.
Expecting to find forever love is too much pressure and, it is only valuable because it is rare. Jumping right in bed kills the excitement of anticipation. Just roll with it and enjoy whatever it ends up being.
Maybe I am nearly alone in this, but my ideal connection is meeting at a unique hole in the wall bar or coffee shop to have a drink or two, talk, and enjoy the unknown. It won't be a failure if you don't have an agenda.


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Coffee or Strippers?
Gepost op:22 september 2018 12:14 pm
Laatste update:22 september 2018 9:20 pm
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Keeping things vanilla is fine. A first date at your average restaurant or coffee shop can be exciting, especially if you click.
It would be fun to try something a little less traditional. Has anyone ever considered a first date at a gentlemen's club? Could you keep each other's attention with all of that going on around you?
Not much strip club experience for me. Never been to one here in Dallas in fact. Just being outside of my normal environment would definitely spice it up.
It is unlikely that you would run out of things to talk about.
It would be fun to sit together and guess why the other customers are there.
Talking to one of the girls may also be interesting. I can imagine her being very confused when you told her that it was your first date.
Maybe it is too "outside of the box," but it would at least make for a unique experience and maybe a good story.

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Testing your Creativity
Gepost op:17 september 2018 10:10 am
Laatste update:17 oktober 2018 12:24 pm
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With my work schedule, it is rare to have a few days without any responsibilities or plans. I have 4 days of freedom at the end of next week!
Going to need some help finding fun to keep me busy. Want to take advantage of the long weekend while I have it.
Not planning on leaving the Dallas area, so throw me some ideas of what to do without driving or flying long distances.
You don't have to live in the Dallas area to give me ideas. Maybe you have just visited here or have experience finding creative pleasure in a big city.
What would you do if you had a few days free?
Where would you go?
Because my friends will likely still be busy with their lives, I may have to find something to do while flying solo. Doing things by myself has never bothered me, but it would be great to find something more unique than a movie. Or maybe you have a good idea of where single people can go to connect and meet people.
No idea is a bad idea. If you had the time to read this blog, humor me by throwing out a plan.
P.S. Sorry about the creepy clown picture. Blog posts are always more interesting with pictures.

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How to end it without hurt feelings!?
Gepost op:13 september 2018 12:27 pm
Laatste update:21 november 2018 6:31 pm
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The end has come. Been on a gold membership for about 45 days. You can read my previous blog post if you are interested in hearing what I learned from my time spent on this site.

Going to put my K name at the bottom of this post in case someone is still interested in talking. I'm not sure what access a person still has after their gold subscription expires.

Probably invested a little too much time into the site. Pretty disappointed with the results. Someone on here jokingly described it as social media for people with dirty minds. There is some truth to that; however, I have never been frustrated by lack of responses on Facebook or Twitter.

Joining the site, I knew that a person's hopes to "hook up" were probably less likely than advertised, especially for someone who isn't drop dead gorgeous or packing 9 inches. What I didn't realize is how hard it would be to "talk first." No one owes a person a response on here, but it sure would be nice if it happened more often.

A woman who posts a picture, receives numerous responses, mostly repulsive.

A man who wants to chat might as well be Tom Hanks in Castaway. I nearly created a fake profile named Wilson just so I could feel better about talking to myself. I kid, but seriously. Not an easy place for a guy to find social connection.

With that I move on to new experiences and new adventures. I am mostly glad that I tried it out. It's been real!

Dougster81


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Things she taught me
Gepost op:10 september 2018 11:50 am
Laatste update:10 september 2018 5:29 pm
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Decided to try out the site for 45 days. Here is what I have learned. Everyone's experience may be a little different so these are just the things that I have found to be true. If it has been different for you, feel free to say so.

There are plenty of fake accounts. Some are trying to draw people to a different site. Many are people pretending to be someone they are not.

The site is excellent for someone who is looking for an endless supply of visual stimulation made available by everyday people. If watching without human interaction is all you seek, you likely won't be disappointed.

It is a little trickier for someone who wants person to person contact.

It is tricky for those seeking men AND those seeking women. But usually for different reasons.

If you are interested in connecting with a guy, the quantity is boundless, but the quality can leave something to be desired. Many women on the site encourage the men to respond or initiate contact with more than a "wanna hook up" or "nice tits;" yet every picture on the site has plenty of thoughtless or shallow responses. Women struggle to sift through the "creeps, weirdos, and losers," as one woman put it.

The pool is much less wide for those seeking real connection with a woman. It is really difficult for a guy to prove that he doesn't fall into the category of men she is trying to avoid. When conversations do begin, she is often talking to several more people at the same time and can seem distracted from the conversation. Taking the conversation to a different online venue can help.

Several women have shown appreciation for conversation that isn't immediately focused on sex. It is wonderful, but also rare to find a woman who initiates conversation, responds to questions in a thoughtful way, and asks good questions herself. This may sound offensive, but it may also be true. The amount a options available to some women may limit the amount of effort they feel they need to put in. If she isn't being stimulated emotionally or mentally right away, she may move on from the conversation pretty quickly. This makes it difficult because every woman is different and it is a feeling out process to understand where she would like the conversation to go.

There is a fair amount of judgement on the site. One member's scathing judgment of another member's interests were especially humorous considering her profile advertised that her ideal person was someone who was "open minded and not judgmental."

Finally, I have learned that the blogs are a really good place to get honest interaction. It may be the most underrated portion of the site.

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In my office!!!!????
Gepost op:7 september 2018 8:28 pm
Laatste update:21 oktober 2018 7:16 pm
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Meeting with women alone in my office, as I often has to do in my job, can be such a turn on. I stay professional and never make a move, but sometimes it isn't easy to keep my mind right.
Often they are coming to me for advice and there is a level of emotional connection and trust. When there is mutual physical attraction (at least I getting the vibe it is mutual) the pull of thoughts in a sexual direction feels unavoidable.
On one occasion, a girl next door type of brunette opened up to me about intimate details of her life. She needed someone to listen as she explained her hurts and frustrations. When she ended the conversation by initiating a hug, I didn't want to let her go but of course I kept it short and friendly. Risking my career by making a move in that setting isn't my style, even though sometimes I fantasize that it could be.
A bleach blonde woman, enough to be my mom had a tendency to wear a short skirt and cross and uncross her legs in a a way that was hard to ignore. Trying to keep my eyes on hers was difficult. I couldn't help but wonder if the views she was offering were intentional.
There have been at least a dozen other circumstances when it would have felt natural to make a move, to take a chance.
Unfortunately there is too much to risk in my career to cross lines that shouldn't be crossed at work, but that doesn't take the desire away. Videos and movies depict these situations one way. Real life is another thing. Fantasies like this have got to be a big reason that sites like this exist.
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Why do women cheat?
Gepost op:5 september 2018 11:27 am
Laatste update:6 september 2018 11:24 am
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Do you find that men and women cheat for different reasons?

A lot of men are unfaithful because they feel that their sex life has become routine and boring.
Sometimes it is because the appeal of another woman feels impossible to resist.
Other times, they have started getting the of respect from another woman that they no longer get at home.
Men are sometimes driven by a desire to conquer. There is an adrenaline rush that comes with a new challenge.
Not saying any of these are good excuses for cheating. Just saying that they tend to be reasons that men give.

Many times it seems women's reasons tend to be more relational.
Her husband doesn't attention or show interest anymore.
She doesn't feel cherished like she once did.
When she committed to him, she traded the attention of many men for the inattention of one.
When discussing reasons for an affair, women often point to the emotional connection and friendship that was created with the other person.

These are my observations. Of course there are exceptions.

What have you seen or experienced?


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It gets hard
Gepost op:29 augustus 2018 12:34 pm
Laatste update:6 september 2018 11:26 am
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Sometimes a woman is so incredibly attractive that self control feels almost impossible!
This morning provided me an extra hour so I decided to stop in a coffee shop with my laptop and waste a little bit of time.
Five minutes after sitting down a couple walks in the door. It was impossible not to notice that her nipples with piercings were poking out of her white t-shirt. She clearly wasn't wearing a bra and I assume she was proud that she was nearly impossible to avoid looking at. Being a gentleman is important and I am not one to gawk at a lady, but when one like her walks in the room, it is like trying to drive by a beautiful mountain scene without taking a peek out the window. Something in a person is just drawn to that of beauty, even if it isn't about sex.
She sat down at a table close to me with her guy. I managed to avoid staring at her as they enjoyed a drink together. We made eye contact a couple of times. Her green eyes drank me in. Again, I managed to pull my eyes away to avoid metaphorically stepping on the other guy's toes.
After a little while, she and the gentleman stood up to leave. I grabbed another look as they went out the glass door in front of me. Every angle of this woman was incredible. Her black stretchy jeans couldn't have fit any better. The white t-shirt ended 5 inches above where her jeans started and the small of her back had a perfect curve. Everything about this girl was proportionately right.
It isn't often that the mere sight of a girl in public sends my heart racing but as she walked out the door, I was glad to have a chance to catch my breath. Little did I know the visual temptation had not ended. She was still within my line of vision outside as she prepared to get back on their motorcycle.
The guy was staring at his phone as she got out her sunscreen and began applying it around her neck, chest, and back to all of the places she could reach, pulling her shirt out of her way, revealing beautiful skin, and continuing to unknowingly tease. Why wasn't he helping? Why couldn't I stop watching?
She came back into the coffee shop one more time to freshen up in the restroom before they left. In a fantasy, this is where a guy like me would approach her and the chemistry would be unavoidable. Without the guy staring at his phone noticing, we would slip away for a passionate encounter. However, I don't live in a fantasy world. This is real life. As she left the building again, I wondered what it would be like to live out a fantasy experience like that. We can't always act on what would feel incredible in the moment. To do so more often would sure be nice though.

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A Little Rub
Gepost op:23 augustus 2018 1:23 pm
Laatste update:25 augustus 2018 7:19 pm
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Professional massages are great, but other arrangements can be better.
Many ago, a woman and I would arrange times to meet up with each other and exchange massages.
We were respectful about where and how we touched and it never became sexual.
Sometimes the sexual tension was there for me and it may have been for her as well. We definitely shared an emotional connection.
We always kept it platonic.
The relationship was much more about enjoying each other's company, relaxing together, and relieving stress.
Life changes brought distance and our arrangement ended at some point.
Sometimes it is easy to let thoughts wander to what might have been if we had been more forward.
What would have happened if we let the massage progress to something more?
Massage is an interesting form of physical touch. It can be so many things. It can be a simple reassurance with a friend, a clinical method or treatment, or a form of creating stimulation and anticipation in a passionate sexual encounter.
There can be incredible excitement in not knowing what of experience it may become. Does that soft touch mean something more? Did that hand purposely wander a little further than it usually does? With body relaxed and senses heightened, the mind and body can respond in unexpected ways.
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